Qualities Of A Good Spouse

The qualities of a good husband/wife that should be looked out for, according to God's pattern in 1Tim 3. 

A letter written from Apostle Paul to Timothy.

1. Be of the same belief as you: As a Christian, the ultimate goal is the kingdom of God which is Heaven. In your pursuit for a life partner, this should be the ultimatum. 

2. Self control: How well can he/she control his/her anger, sexual drive, emotions, financial management. Most times we tend to overlook these little things. 

3. Orderliness.

4. He/she must be approachable.

5. Gentle and Peaceful.

6  Good Family Management: If you take a look at Rachel and the life of Jacob in Gen 29:9(KJV), Rachel took her father's flock to the well and that's where he met Rachel. This struck a big deal in his heart. 

why?

It's because he saw her as an industrious woman. And this guaranteed that she could manage his home effectively. Look at Gen 29:11. And Jacob kissed Rachel....KJV. 

For this same reason Jacob work for Rachel's hand in marriage for 14years. Gen 29:27-28. (GOOD NEWS BIBLE) 27. Wait until the week's marriage celebrations are over, and I will give you Rachel, if you will work for me another seven years.*

28. Jacob agreed, and when the week of marriage celebrations was over, Laban gave him his daughter Rachel as his wife.

Here is a book I recommend: Waiting And Dating (A sensible guide to fulfilling Love Relationship) by Dr Myles Munroe