What Is Love?

LOVE:

Love is an affection in spite of flaws. Love is an affection for no conditions or reasons.

Many persons feel love is that frenzy feeling of urge, and all that hormones (adrenaline and epinephrine) gushing out when you see that person.

Let's note something, Love isn't a feeling and it never was, it's intentional. That is why you can choose to love and choose not to love. 

Well for others they say "It was Love at first sight". Please there is nothing like love at first sight. Whatever you felt was just "lust" or "infatuation". 

Perhaps the guy was;

• Handsome
• He has pinkish lips
• Rich
• Dresses well

Or probably the lady was;

• Beautiful
• She has nice curves 
• She has nice boobs 
• She's fair
• She has a smooth skin
• Her smiles et cetera. 

These are the first things the eyes take note of.

It's okay to be attracted by what is good when seen, but it shouldn't be a yardstick for you calling it love.

What Love Actually Entails.

John 3:16 says "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son......." (KJV).

The above verse makes it clearer. God loves us his children and will continue to love us. But his love is without a condition. God never gave a why for loving us, but all we can see in that verse is that.

Love becomes suicidal when there is a condition attached to it.

Examples;

• I love you because
• I love you whenever
• I love you if
• I love you but
• I love you Every time you
• I love you as long as you
• I love you the way you
• I love you for your hairstyle, physique.

The Big Question is what Happens When All these Requirements aren't meant??

What Happens when you forget to perform one of the reasons for he/she loving you??

Please let's be guided that there shouldn't be a reason for loving someone. 

That is why it was explained earlier that love is never felt at first sight. A person who gives you a reason to why HE/SHE loves you, loves the flesh which is "Lust" and also what HE/SHE sees.

Here is the gist, wherever there is a REASON, there is always a CONDITION and which leads to EXPECTATIONS. 

You shouldn't expect anything out of love or expect anything back from loving someone. Gen 1:18 says "And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet for him" (KJV). Mark the word Helper.  So whatever your partner, spouse does shouldn't be expected at all. You should be thankful to her because she's a helper.

All EXPECTATIONS leads to DISAPPOINTMENTS which leads to DIVISION  and then to DIVORCE which finally results to DEATH of a relationship. 

The only way to remove EXPECTATIONS is to remove CONDITIONS. If you learn to love for no reason, there is nothing someone can do, for you to stop loving that person.

What actually defines the word TRUE LOVE is loving with no reason.

Romans 5:8 says "But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (KJV). 

Christ didn't die for you because;

• You're good.
• You're kind. 
• You're Holy.

He died because of his undying love for us, even when we were yet sinners.

Kindly check this video on youtube by Dr. Myles Munroe.  "Secret keys to never get a breakup in your Relationship".