The Movies Love vs. The Reality Love.

The movie aspect of love is one of the profound love that has made a lot of persons not see the actual meaning of love.

The movies explanation of love has made love into something that is far from what love actually means. And most times the ladies are hit really hard by this fallacy of what they think love is by;

• What they watch,
• What they see,
• And finally what they hear.

The first hit for you is this;

It is only in the movies explanation of love, that they make you see that;

• Love is perfect with no flaws.
• Falling in love as they call it, is very interesting and sweet with no bad sides too.
• You can love someone even when the person has no source if income, no plans for the future.
• You don't need to plan about the future together, just live each day as it comes.
• You can Love even without a roof over your head.
• Love is all you need when you're about to enter a relationship or you're already in the relationship, forgetting that only love alone can't work the magic.

Question:

How many of you once thought that marriage was a bed of Rose's according to the way it was in the movies, and you couldn't wait to get married. And now you have finally gotten married and discovered that there's more to this than meet the eyes.

Well that is the same experience you get from love based on movies. It's not as you see it.

How to fix the problem!!

If you have noticed that in some movies, though not all, there is a DISCLAIMER,

• Like this movie is based on FICTION, or
• The characters used in this movie are not real.

We tend to overlook this tiny bit of information, which could re orient our thinking concerning some movies, especially from the Love angle. So it isn't the Producer's fault that you didn't pay attention to the Information given concerning the movie. 

Most times you are too emotional towards certain love movies, that you forget that it was meant for entertainment. Have you ever sat down and ask yourself questions like;

• Why does the girl the Protagonist likes in some love movies end up dying?

• Why the girl the Protagonist likes, doesn't like him back??. And then later it was discovered she was pretending about letting her feelings out. And boom.......they have sex.

• Why the hero of team one, and the hero of team two just suddenly falls in love with each other knowing fully well that the both teams are not in good terms?

Why a rich guy falls in love with a pauper girl knowing fully well that his family background status won't allow it. And when he introduces the girl to his family, they reject her at first, but along the line they end up accepting the girl??

Why will a male Protagonist and female Antagonist or vice versa fall in love when they know they aren't compatible in anyway??

Why will love begin with having sex with a total stranger or a colleague the person isn't too familiar with??. And boom......love starts??.

This is more of an abnormal or inverse relationship, because usually relationships should start from the friendship level and then progresses to the next level and so on. 

Sex should be the very last thing when it comes to relationships and it is only meant for legal marriages according to God's standards.

Two persons who were once in love with each other finally decides to separate and live their own separate lives by getting married to different persons. And when they see each other again after some years, they suddenly want to get back together, after separating and even after getting married. Why??

I am not trying to make you hate Love movies, novels or even poetry. But the idea is this, to let you know that whatever love that is practiced in the novels, movies or even poetry most times is not a kind of love that can be practiced in reality. 

It is meant for entertainment and it should be kept at that. Though you can learn a thing or two from it, but don't ever try to imitate it, because you're ruining your self-esteem as a person.

This is one of the contributors of so many breakups in the society today. Why, because it has given room for so many comparisons.

For Example; "When your husband doesn't do what you ask him to do, you remember that in the movie you just finished watching, Mr. A always does what his wife wanted or tells him to do"

What kind of nonsense is that?

What kind of attitude is that?

Why are you allowing what you hear, see cause chaos in your matrimonial home ordained by God.

Colossians 3:2 says "set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth" (KJV). 

Remember in the previous write ups that it was stated that the fact you live in the world, doesn't mean you're for the world.

Please be guided to know the difference between 

"What can be practiced and what is meant strictly for entertainment".