The Naysayers in Relationships.

This is yet another aspect that is affecting  relationships in this generation. Our society has brought a belief system that a guy and a lady must qualify for, before entering into each others space (life).

Most times you'll hear our parents often say 

"Is he a catholic"?

"Is she a Pentecostal"?

"Is she from the black race"?

"Is he from the white race"?

"Of what tribe is he/she"?

To the guy or girl we want to spend the rest of our life with, most especially in Africa.

This has pose so many troubles, and controversies that has led to the breakup of so many relationships. 

A parent will want their son to marry a Pentecostal, because they're Pentecostal. Or a parent will want their daughter to marry a Catholic because they're Catholic.

See what Isaiah 29:13 says "The Lord said, These people claim to worship me, but their words are meaningless, and their hearts are somewhere else. Their religion is nothing but human rules and traditions, which they have simply memorized" (Good News Bible).

Yes, these are rules made by man. We are so caught up in what our tradition says, what our race says and totally forget what God is saying.


What God says is all that matters in whatever decision you have decided to take. As long as it is approved by God and it is from God, then go ahead and marry that lady or guy. Even when the situation seems very impossible at that time. And sometimes you'll find yourself caught between following what your heart feels is right (base on God direction) at the expense of disobeying your parents. Make sure it's base on God's direction. 


Well there is a way out. First, just having a dream or a vision isn't enough to make your love life work. Though it might be from God, but don't you forget in the previous post that, God doesn't chooses a spouse for you, he only directs and you make the decision.

https://itzlovemeleaveme.blogspot.com/2020/07/god-directs-but-you-make-decision.html

The fact you have a vision or dream only means one thing, there is a high possibility of success. But there are other things that must be there.

And one major key is, are you Compatible.

Are you two able to understand each other well enough?. Amos 3:3 says "Can two work together, except they be agreed?" (KJV).

You're parents might be right to some extent, but it shouldn't be the major yardstick for getting married to that person. God should have the final and definite say.

But it is also advisable to hear your parents, guardian or close friends out. They might possibly have seen some very bad flaws that you missed, as a result of you being in love. 

That is why most times, it is advisable you get a marriage counsellor to help you spot certain weaknesses you overlooked. 

But still, if everything is in place, and the weaknesses in that person you can tolerate, then you can go ahead. As long as you're acting base on God's direction. 

In conclusion, race, religion and tradition should never be a yardstick for marrying a person, or a reason for not marrying a person. Please be guided.