BEAUTY WITHOUT CHARACTER

 Proverbs 11:22 "Beauty in a woman without good judgement is like a gold ring in a pig's snout" (Good News Bible).

The Amplified Bible calls it "fair woman without discretion".

Let's begin with this first fact. Your beauty can never be a substitute for your character.

This simply means, the fact you're beautiful doesn't mean you have character. Instead your beauty should be a complement to your character, that's if you have a good one. 

So don't feel on top of the world yet, when you discover how beautiful you are. But check out on the deep side. What lies within your heart is what you truly are.

Secondly Beauty is not your character. 

Haven't you wondered why so many beautiful ladies out there, even more beautiful than you (if you're a lady) still aren't married? Or even yet to start a relationship?

But please note, it's not every lady out there who is not married lacks character. Some are due to unprecedented events, such as the lady being a lesbian, or a spiritual warfare. Though there are many more, but we won't want to go out of our main topic for today.

But the fact still remains, most beautiful ladies lack character.

Yes, a man may be attracted by your beauty at first, but your beauty cannot and will never keep a faithful man. Your character will.

So what are these characters??

Proverbs 14:1 says "EVERY WISE woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands" (Amplified Bible).

From the above scriptures, we can establish two points;

1. Wisdom is needed to be a woman of character. And this comes only by asking from the Almighty God. Matthew 7:7 says "Keep on asking and it will be given you; keep on seeking and you will find; keep on knocking [reverently] and [the door] will be opened to you" (Amplified Bible). So it is clear. And please when asking, ask politely (in reverence) with a genuine heart.

2. For every wise woman to build her house, she needs to learn GOOD HOME MANAGEMENT. Not so many ladies know this. 

Can you take care of your home?

Are you responsible enough to take care of your family? These are questions you (as a lady) should continue asking yourself, to know if and when you're ready. 

You know, being responsible doesn't just come overnight. No, it takes a gradual process and before you know, it becomes a lifestyle. 

Never keep responsibilities for when you enter marriage.

Learn it now, and use it to groom your family. This is for both gender. We're not talking to the ladies only.

It is better to make the mistake outside marriage, than to make the mistake when you're already in marriage.

Yes, definitely mistakes will happen in marriage, but it will be minor issues no matter how severe or serious it may appear to be. Why, because you've learnt responsibility. Responsibility was dealt with in the link below.

https://itzlovemeleaveme.blogspot.com/2020/11/responsibility.html

Proverbs 25:24 says "Better to live on the roof than share the house with a nagging wife" (Good News Bible).

3. To be a woman of character, you need to complain less and appreciate more. Yes your husband isn't going to be perfect all the time. In fact for some men, most times. But this doesn't warrant the tiredless complains. Be appreciative, no matter how small or little it may appear. 

Your appreciation today, opens doors for bigger surprises tomorrow. 

If your husband isn't doing something right, tell him. In fact help him do it well, instead of complaining. That's why you're a helper meet for him in Genesis 2:18. But please correct with love and not arrogance or pride. You're correcting his mistake, but remember he's still the head of the family,  don't ever forget that. Be very careful.

Another thing you (wives) should know is, Your level of appreciation is proportional to the level of affection you'll get from your husband.

Proverbs 27:15 "A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm" (New International Version).

4. To be a woman of character, you need to be peaceful. Though for some homes this isn't easy, especially a type of home where the husband doesn't accept or admit to his mistakes. A husband who is too proud to say I'm sorry when he has wronged his wife. 

But still, be the gentle wife. Your gentleness doesn't mean you're stupid or foolish. It only shows how matured you are. And if you find yourself (for the married women) in a situation where you perceive an arguement could arise on a certain discussion if it persists, try as much as possible to avoid such a conversation. This could also be applied for the married men too.

See a clue, Normal problems sometimes might not necessarily need a normal approach to solve them. All it needs might be a very awkward approach.

But be careful, I didn't say you should start solving problems using the wrong approach. take note of the word "might" above. Please be guided. 

Proverbs 11:16 "A gracious woman is respected, but a woman without virtue is a disgrace. Lazy people will never have money, but aggressive people will get rich (Good News Bible).

5. To be a woman of character, you need to be gracious. Now what does it mean to be gracious? Its simple, it means to be Godly. You have to believe in God and the importance of living a moral life. Let God be your number one according to Matthew 6:33 "But seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things  shall be added unto you" (KJV). But how?

Well it starts from the genuine willingness to want to know God, for who he is, for what he is and the purpose of creating you. And to know more about this, learn to study his word (the Bible) regularly. But don't do this alone, it has to be with the guidance of the Holy Spirit. 

Here is a tip on how to seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit. 

When you're about starting, just politely say "Sweet Holy Spirit please grant me understanding".

And finally

6. To be a woman of character, you need to exhibit and showcase virtue. Proverbs 31:10 says "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies"(KJV). 

Your virtue is your values, and your values is your belief, and your belief is your actions (what you act on). 

Have the right values of the good wife that Proverbs 31 explained. Note in this virtue also lies your respect. 

And even when you're not so beautiful, responsible men will still want to spend the rest of their life with you. And if you're very beautiful and still posses the right character, then its an added advantage to you. 

Don't ever capitalize on your beauty, for beauty fades, but your character lingers on.

Be like Abigail the Carmelitess in 1 Samuel 25. She called David lord about thirteen times, and as at this time David wasn't a king yet. 

Here's an assignment for you, I want you to study Abigail's character, and hopefully you can share a thing or two you learnt from her character on the comment section below. ⬇️