DISCLAIMER ‼‼‼ (No Shame In Saying NO)!

 Every individual has a soft side, and for some it might become their weaknesses. 

But under this write up, with the help and direction from the HOLY SPIRIT, we'll be looking at the Relationship aspect, because this area covers a lot of other sphere of life.

So let's begin. When it comes to a relationship that will eventually lead to marriage, there is no shame in saying no, if you are not yet sure of spending the rest of your life with this person. Then it therefore means there is no need shying away from it.

It takes two to make a marriage work, that's why Amos 3:3 says "Can two work together except they be agreed?".

It's your decision. Don't use the idea of, you want to please your parents to get married, or you want to pity the person, by getting married to the person, when you know fully well that deep down in your heart there is something not right.

When it comes to marriage, or getting married, any slight doubt in your heart concerning the person, it is advisable you don't  go ahead with the marriage just yet. Don't use shame and then decide not to follow what your heart says, most importantly what JESUS CHRIST is saying. If at all you're to settle or resolve the issue if there be any, it should be before the marriage and not after the marriage.

This idea of wanting to please people (parents, peers) has caused so many damages than good in families today. You're the one getting married to this person and not your parents.

If you feel you can't cope with this person you're about to be wedded to, don't shy away from it. Kindly back out now, so you won't end up saying "All men are the same" or "All men na men" like Pastor Mildred Okonkwo will often say. After a lady has settled for a guy she won't have actually married, because she's running out of time, or probably because her friends are getting married, you'll now hear her say  after all "All men are the same". That is where this quote originated from. Thanks a lot Pastor M for your coaching.

Young lady no man is perfect indeed, but there is a clear line between Ignorance and common sense. Marriage is not a two years affair or rather three years affair. It's for life, as they often say it at the altar, "till death do us path". So it's either you're in or not.

So please be guided.