Giving Husband benefits to Boyfriend.

 First of I want to appreciate my Heavenly Father for his Grace and Favor He has bestowed upon me to be able to write a thing or two as regards this post.

Secondly I will love to thank Pastor Mildred Kingsley Okonkwo (Pastor M) for this insight she shared on one of her post on YouTube, "7 Mistakes Single Ladies Make". It was superb. Thank you so much ma. Hey guys you can check out this video on YouTube too.

Back to the topic, Husband benefits to boyfriend...

Let's begin with this first fact, your boyfriend is not your husband. At least not yet, even when he's going to eventually be.

There are certain benefits that are best reserved for marriage or should we say meant only in marriage and not in a relationship. And they are;

• Sex: sex is mainly and only meant in marriage (that is, inside the marriage). Other than this, its fornication. 
• Cooking: cooking for your boyfriend is not a bad idea, but it becomes one when it becomes a steady habit to always cook for when he isn't married to you yet (your boyfriend). Being married isn't the same thing as about to be married.

• Every day washing and cleaning: yes we know you want to portray that you're a wife material, but please washing his clothes every day, cleaning his home every day is going too far. (Haba.......). And don't be surprised to see this lady personal home so disorganized and untidy . In your mind "you want to keep him", in your mind "he will not look at other girls". (Sis who nr love you nr love you).
• Cohabitation: sleeping in the same house, when you're not yet married, is a very common thing, like very common. He is not your husband yet you're already living with him, living together like Husband and wife. In fact how sure are you, that this relationship will lead to marriage in the long run. We're not been negatively minded here, it's the fact. How sure are you that this guy will marry you? Especially now that he's already enjoying the benefits he's supposed to be enjoying if he got married to you? You don't live together until he is married to you.

Have some dignity ladies. Cohabitation is stooping too low for him. If he is the man he claims to be, then let him propose to you and marry you officially according to God's standards. 

Treating your boyfriend as your husband won't guarantee him marrying you. There is even a higher probability that he won't end up marrying you, especially now he's already enjoying the things he would have enjoyed when he actually married you.

Because in this relationship, you're already giving him everything. 

As long as you're still in a relationship, you must keep certain boundaries clean and clear.

In fact if you're sure this relationship will lead to marriage, then why the rush? Since he's going to be your husband in the long run, then relax!. It is not cohabitation nor sex that will prove you truly love him or show that you're a wife material. Neither is your cleaning or washing going to prove that too.

I haven't heard that, by having sex with someone who isn't your husband yet, is a sign of showing good character? But keeping your boundaries is what shows your dignity and earns you respect.

Yes we might sound old fashioned, but it's the truth. Please be guided.