Deal Breaker vs. Deal Maker.

 There are things that are major matters in the course of considering entering a relationship with someone, and there are are things that are less important. (More like an order of priority).

So let's ride, hope you tag along.

What are the things that you're not willing to sacrifice in your relationship? What are the things that without it being there it won't work in your relationship? (Deal maker).

Also from an angle, what are the things you don't count a big deal, it's not that necessary? Things you know you can live without in the relationship? (Deal breaker).

These are some of the questions that should be asked and answered correctly before thinking or planning on even starting a relationship that will eventually lead to marriage.

You know there are actually persons who are very eligible for marriage, but yet they aren't married neither in any serious relationship. They've missed their order of priority as to what is the "Deal Breaker and Deal Maker".

One major cause of this is the list! 

Yes! The list. This is the area we'll be addressing on this post. The list is what has made so many ladies single.

The list is an expression on paper of what they (ladies/guys) intend their future spouse should possess. 

And this list has caused more harm than good leading to the fact that most ladies/guys list have become very unachievable. More like an "unrealistic list" according to Pastor Mildred Kingsley Okonkwo. 

A list containing description of a perfect man/woman, whereas this person (who wrote this list) in particular is no perfection either.

You see a list where the lady desires a guy who is or who has

• Pink lips,
• Abs,
• Broad chested,
• Tall,
• Beards,
• Very hairy, 
• White toothed,
• Dimples on his cheeks,
• A protector (like Dwayne Johnson),
• Be an athlete,
• Be spiritual (able to tackle spiritual warfare),
• Has a very lucrative job (with at least a six figure pay),
• Handsome,
• Have a sexy bow leg like that of this popular Korean actor (Lee Min Ho) etc.

Whoa! See there is a clear line between reality and imagination. And how sure are you that a guy like this (that's if he exist) will definitely want to date a lady like you?

Well I don't think so!

And you'll see the guys list, his lady/woman must

• Be beautiful, 
• Knows how to cook,
• Be packaged (the boobs and butts, more like a figure 8 structure),
• Be fair in complexion,
• Be an average girls height (not short and not tall, just average),
• Knows how to wash and clean very well,
• Be romantic,
• Have money,
• Be spiritual (having a performing role in church),
• Come from a rich family,
• Have white eyes.

Only you oh! Everything in just one lady. Then what happens to the others guys (we we), what ladies are they going to be left with? 

Well thanks be to our Heavenly Father who is not a man Numbers 23:19 "......God is not a man" to just put all the perfect things in only one lady. 

We aren't saying you shouldn't have the best, of course you should. It is very important, that you have the best, but be considerate. 

You that is writing down all these list are you perfect? Learn to appreciate that we humans all have our flaws in one way or the other, and that we strive towards perfection every day.

Most times these unnecessary list is what causes the delays in your life as a lady or guy. But the ladies are more at a disadvantage, because time is not really your friend. As at 45-50 years, menopause is already knocking at your door.

And sometimes it could be an unprecedented event in the future like a delay in child birth, infertility and others.

We aren't trying to scare you, all we are saying is, stop wasting time. Know what are the deal maker and the deal breaker having in mind that no man is perfect.

Have a reasonable list that a person can be, if at all not all but majority is okay. Let's make it clearer, if at all you have a list know that no guy or lady is ever going to fit perfectly into that list. There is going to be a compromise.

And knowing the "deal maker from the deal breaker" becomes very significant at this level. You have to learn to know what works best for you (deal maker) and what don't work too well for you (deal breaker).

"The guy is wealthy, but his spiritual life is zero can you accommodate that?

The girl can cook very well, but she's short can you accommodate that?

The guy has pink lips, beards, and tall but he's broke (no money) can you still marry this guy?

The lady has money, beautiful, and white eyes but she lacks the cooking ability, washing and cleaning abiltiy can you still marry her?

You then see why it becomes very important to know what "you really need" from what "you think you need.