Growing The Marriage Mindset

 It feels so nice to be alive today, to be in God's presence, to be carried by his grace and mercy. A few minutes of thanks and adoration to this merciful King (GOD). We don't deserve his love, but yet he still loves us his children unconditionally. 

No wonder Romans 5:8 says "But God commandeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (KJV). His love for us has no limits or end, he's worthy of our praise. 

So let's kick off with the main agenda of today.

Growing the marriage mindset!

First let's break the sentence structure into smaller bits.

Growing means to nurture, or the process of nurturing to reach full maturity.

Mindset is a particular way of thinking.

Now the basis been laid, the arrangement of the above definitions will sum up as, nurturing the thinking ability towards marriage.

Everyone in one way or the other wishes to get married someday except for those whose purpose in life won't allow it. 

Jesus Christ was an example, Samson was another example, John the Baptist was still an example.

In fact in our present generation today, the Reverend Fathers are practicing such today. So if your destiny is like this, don't feel sad for your reward is in Heaven. 

Now, knowing that one day you will get married, how do you go about it?

Do you just stare and wait hopelessly for that day to come without any preparations?

Or are you just going to sit idly waiting for that person to come without you working on yourself?

How prepared are you to host this person in your space? Are you up to the task of catering for another person?

Knowing that these questions need the right answers, then there is a need for growing a positive marriage mindset.

So what are the things that are needed to be carried out while preparing for that special someone.

• You need to set the right foundation. I Corinthians 3:11 says "For no one can lay any foundation other than the one we already have-Jesus Christ" (NLT).

Christ has to be the first foundation you should build all other things on. You need to be in close intimacy with him (the Heavenly Father) only then can the blueprint of your life be set right.

• You need to know where you're heading: there is nothing as stupid as leading someone when you're actually lost.

Nothing irritates more than following the footsteps  of a person who doesn't know where he/she is going. And this can only be achieved by the first point above.

In the course of walking with Christ, he shows you the very plans the Heavenly Father has for your life, and also shows you the person that will be compatible with you concerning the task he has assigned you. 

This was the case of Joseph when he became the Governor of Egypt. He was given a wife on his enthronement called Asenath Gen 41:45.

This was all because Joseph discovered purpose early enough and so it wasn't hard leading another person who eventually was his wife and Egypt as a whole too.

• Be Prepared: just knowing where you're heading to isn't going to put food on your table.

You can have a great potential and still die without making any impact.

You can be gifted and all of such, but if you don't work it out yourself by equipping yourself for the journey, then you won't last long in whatever area you're pursuing no matter how many Anointed men of God lay hands on your head.

You must do your part so that when the other person (partner) comes, it will yield a huge success.

Ecclesiastes 4:9 "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour" (KJV).

• Learn to accommodate: as you go forward n life you will learn to accommodate people who aren't related to you in anyway. This was how the Servant of Abraham met Rebekah in Genesis 24:15. At some point in life you'll learn to manage no matter how little it may be, all these things you must place in your heart as you soar to places beyond your imagination.

• Learn Compatibility Complex: you'll later discover that not all that comes your way are actually meant to stay.

Here is a link on our post on; Not Every Friendship is met to stay

https://itzlovemeleaveme.blogspot.com/2021/01/not-every-friend-is-met-to-stay.html

Also you can also check the three routes before marriage on the link below....

https://itzlovemeleaveme.blogspot.com/2020/07/the-three-route-before-marriage.html

On that post you will learn not to give too much attention and time to unnecessary people in your life. People who aren't adding values to your life, you'll learn to block off certain persons out of your space because they aren't good for your growth process. 

You will have to get rid of certain bad connections so that you can focus on the task at hand. This severed connections could be your immediate family or extended family. Though we aren't saying they are not your family anymore, of course they are. Family will always be family, but all we are saying is, at a certain stage in life growth you have to grow outside the walls, confinement and boundaries of family to be fully matured.

Your parents were once little children, ask them how they grew, how they learnt their values?

Some were in the family, so were outside the family (personal life experience).

1 Corinthians 13:11 "When I was a child I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things" (KJV).

• Knowing you're ready: after all that have been said and done you need to know if you're actually ready. And this can be done by knowing what you want and not what you think you want.

You need to be sure about the step you're about taking. We are only there to support you and not to stay with you in the marriage. 

Be guided!