Not Every Friendship Is Met To Stay!

 If you have been in this situation before, more like  you were in a friendship that you once thought was going to lead to a relationship and then finally marriage, then you can understand the area of our scope today.

It is very important to know that there are different levels of friendship, which have been discussed previously on this blog. There is the link below. . . . .

https://itzlovemeleaveme.blogspot.com/2020/07/the-three-route-before-marriage.html

Hoping to end up with a person you thought was the one (Oh! She's the one, he's the one) and at the end of it all it turned out to be a total sham. This can be very hurtful, painful and annoying. There is this inner tendency of not wanting to go further. It's like you feel kind of stuck even though you won't accept it or say it out loud.

But it's a lesson learnt for a better purpose and future. The pain you pass through today will make you stronger tomorrow. But there is a way of preventing this from happening twice. . . .

How Not to Repeat the same mistake twice?

Most persons feel that since this relationship didn't work out, then let's try a new one and when it still doesn't work out, they keep on trying a new one. 

No! Its not done that way. "You don't correct a mistake by making another mistake".

All you need do in such a situation is to rethink. Look at the previous relationship and learn from it (things you didn't notice, errors made and so on). In the process of learning and recuperating from the heart break and emotional trauma, you learn to carefully reflect on better ways to improve yourself for a better relationship. You don't just push yourself straight on into another relationship just yet. Ask for guidance and direction from the Holy Spirit for he definitely knows the way better than you and I.

In addition to taking your mind of dating just immediately, try new stuffs, new things that makes you happy (a hobby, a job, webinars) to improve yourself. Just make sure that whatever you do, make sure your life keeps going, don't make it stop because of a failed relationship.

"A one failed relationship doesn't make you a failure".

No it doesn't and it shouldn't. You're a bigger version of what you think you are, and you don't need any man/woman to make you see that or to make you feel qualified.

And lastly, be careful of whom you bring into your space (life), so you don't make the same mistake twice. Not every person or friend is worth your time and effort.

"The best version of your self-worth is not dependent on who, but on you"!