There Are Things Not To Do!

Have you ever come across a scenario where you're about doing a thing and the people there suddenly rebuke you saying "No, don't do that" or "We don't do such things here"??

There is this feeling of comportment and self-organization. You become conscious of everything around you and your environment. That moment you realize you're not in your home #your father's house!

Same it is when you're in a relationship. 

There are the "dos and don'ts" in a relationship and we'll be taking a few.

1. Don't intrude privacy; privacy is all we humans all need at certain points in time. Even husbands and wives need their privacy. The fact you find yourself in a relationship with a guy or lady doesn't mean you should start monitoring this person lifestyle, his career, his social media accounts, whose post he's liking and whose post he's commenting on. Cut the guy some slack, give him some breathing space. Do not make it become a crime for him dating you.
2. Excessive Jealousy; this shows your level of distrust for this person. We aren't saying you shouldn't get jealous, come on you should after all he's your man, she's your woman but over jealousy (if there is any word like that) will do more harm than good. You see him with a girl, he's laughing while they chat and you're like "What are they discussing that's making him laugh this hard", "when I say something funny, he doesn't laugh this hard". Only you all these many thoughts in your head. If you don't take care, stress and over thinking will kill you and the guy will just move on. Take things easy, he's your boyfriend and not your husbaand yet, and even if at all he is, it still doesn't warrant you stalking him like this. And for the guys, you aren't left out too. Give your ladies a break. The fact you're in a relationship with her doesn't mean her social life with other people will just automatically end. There were friends she longed had before you two ever met, and you don't expect her to throw away those years of friendship down the drain (notwithstanding whether it's a guy or a lady). The fact she's in a relationship with you doesn't mean she can't have Male friends. You that is saying she shouldn't have Male friends, don't you have female friends? The only criteria should be, boundaries must and should be set, that way you don't hurt anybody.
3. Lastly respect values; have respect for each other's beliefs and lifestyle. Remember you're from two different ethnic groups coming together to form a bond. And even peradventure you come from the same ethnic group, let's say (benin, benin) you still need to respect each others values, because there is still going to be a slight difference in behavior.

Your environment contributes a part to your values you exhibit today, and so even if you're from the same place, ethnic group, or neighborhood it still doesn't warrant you looking down on each other's values.

So respect that, because varied values (belief) is what brings uniqueness to the world. 

And in case you're values doesn't align, find a way to work it out (compromise). 

If it doesn't work still, then that relationship goes no where. 

You have to be aligned to each other for your relationship to work.