First Impression Matters (Appearance)!

 Let's use an illustration;

There is this freshly baked bread and the one which is not (this you aren't aware of). The freshly baked bread appears to be in a very unattractive nylon or cellophane bag, and the other bread which is not fresh happens to be in a very attractive and sophisticated cellophane bag.

Which will you choose? Remember you aren't aware of the difference between the freshly baked bread and the one which is not.

Definitely you will go for the bread which is not freshly baked because the appearance (sophisticated cellophane bag) has covered for it flaws.

Same it is with humans, both the male and female.

Now, lets address the ladies more on this post, because it is mainly concentrated on them. The guys are not excluded too.

It is what you have upstairs (in your head), that will determine if he will stay or not.

Don't ever have this mindset as a lady. Men will always be men, in the sense that men are moved most times by what they see. Now what will make them attracted to you, if what makes them actually attracted to you is absent?

Intelligence is not written on anybody's forehead, so even if you're intelligent it doesn't guarantee you're attractive yet. Let there be a factor (appearance) that will attract him to you first, then from then on, he can see what lies in the inner beauty (intelligence, smartness, understanding and many more).

Ladies haven't you heard of the saying that goes like this "dress the way you want to be addressed?". 

Don't quote us wrong, we aren't saying you should dress half-naked to become attractive to any man. Absolutely no, infact that isn't dressing at all, its completely out of it. Most times the kind of men that will end up with you in such clothings will be irresponsible and no goal oriented men.

There are actually decent dressings for ladies, this you can easily search online, it's a digital age so make good use of it.

Back to our gist (discussion), your dressing speaks on your personality before the guy actually gets the chance to speak to you.

Don't be angry at the kind of guys you attract, what you should check is what is wrong?

Your level of dressing brings you to the exact level of personality that matches your clothing lifestyle.

Now we aren't saying you must have expensive clothes, that's not it. There are actually a lot of ladies who have expensive clothes but still dress anyhow, they lack proper dressing etiquette, let's put it that way.

Lets imagine together, "how will you view a lady putting on a dark blue corporate suit (with trousers or skirts), alongside a nice black heels?

Or a blue gown on a black heels?

How does it seem? How does it look? What personality does it portray? Or just take a look at the dressing etiquette below ⬇️

And for the guys here is one, "you want to propose to a lady, and you wear long sleeve on a three-quarter trouser with a brown tie accompanied by a black shoe.

What a combination! The dressing alone is enough for her to turn down your proposal.

You're speaking to lady for the first time, and you're looking very unkempt, your trouser is rough, you haven't cut your hair for months, your shoe lace is flying around, you're scratching your armpit while talking to her, in fact you're looking disgusting, how do you expect her to handle all of this? Even if you were intelligent, it only shows you're intelligent in one aspect, outside that you're empty on every other end. And she needs a man that can be able to handle a family with her and her children involved.

Let me reveal a secret to you, I for one, I wasn't a fan of much dressing and all of those stuff. But recently I came to realise the importance of wearing good clothes, using a deodorant, and generally smelling nice.

Ladies feel more attracted to guys and men who smells nice, who are attractive to the eyes.

It is not a crime to be intelligent and still look nice, is it? Why not try  this new step today. . . . It really worked well for me and I believe it can for you.

And also I know money might be an issue for some persons, but it doesn't really take much money to iron a rumpled clothing, neither does it take money to have a nice bath, to live neat. It's all about your habit and willingness to adjust to changes.

And believe me, once you're ready and willing to change for the better, money will definitely come. 

Just dream it, think it, believe it, envisage it, work towards it and it will happen. Stay blessed!