Wedding As An Initiation Into Marriage.

 We've established in one of our previous post that the wedding is not the marriage, but here we'll be explaining and discussing in more detail as to why the wedding is an initiation into marriage. Hope you follow us wholeheartedly. . . . 

Many persons are so happy and excited over the wedding, most especially the wedding party. The bride with her bridesmaids and the groom with his groom men, it's so much fun, the ecstasy it's amazing. 

It is a big day with lots of groove, gbedu (party), like an African wedding party (Nigeria to be precise) which is where I'm from, there is no dull moment with our wedding party.

You see things like gele, men in agbada, aswoebi, the bride and groom dancing and also you see things like money spraying (which sometimes can be a time to show who actually got the cash, the dough, the pepper, the ego). Please for international readers it all means cash, money.

It's so much fun. Then you get to see our Nigerian dishes like "pounded yam and egusi soup, moi-moi, pepper jollof-rice, leaf rice (mostly referred to as izoko in my tribe (bini)), fried rice, plantain and garden egg sauce, amala and ewedu soup, starch and banga soup etc".

Now if we continue naming, the whole post will be too bulky and too difficult to read, comprehend and it becomes really boring and irrelevant. But what we're trying to show here is, to have a great wedding is nice, it's good, its elegant to prepare for the wedding, but this wedding is not the marriage.

If you can spend so much in a wedding, then we see no reason why you can't spend the same amount for your marriage to be successful.

It will be penny wise and pound foolish not to invest in marriage.

It is also important to highlight that there has to be a wedding before a marriage. It's just like you can't go through the letter B without starting from A if you're reading the alphabet.

The wedding is like the evidence before many that leads to the marriage. It is witnessed by many. 

But also let's note that no matter how small a wedding might be, it is basically for the invitation of guest. But on the other hand, the marriage is just for you both. A third party is not permitted whatsoever.

So please be guided. The wedding is important and we aren't saying you shouldn't plan it big or enormous. But please also make sure as your preparation for the wedding is big, let your preparation for the marriage be bigger. 

Let the marriage be more importanter (if there is such a word). # Importanter is used to buttress our points. E clear!!!