Happy New Month to you all, thanks for supporting our post all through the years.
Now let's begin firstly with, there are time wasters and also what we call time wasting.
You're either a time waster, or you're being subjected to time wasting by time wasters. This means, this is you being the victim of time wasters.
Whatever it may be, "time" is involved and that will be the area of our discussion.
As a lady or a young woman growing up, time is an entity that you cannot waste. Its very crucial, it's very important and significant in your life as a lady, most importantly a single lady.
Take for example; A man at 50 years of age is still considered fit for marriage, but a woman at 40 years is already lagging behind, in fact from mid thirties things are changing (biologically, spiritually, mentally and emotionally).
And so we draw our topic line again; stop wasting time!
Firstly it will be significant to note that there are factors that can lead to time wasting.
Please let's also differentiate between time wasters and time wasting.
Time wasters; they're the subject, the person, and are mostly the Male folks if not all.
Time wasting; you're the object being time wasted. The effect is manifested, is feasible in you as the person.
Factors that can lead to time wasting!
1. Insecurity; as a lady or as ladies, insecurity tend to evolve over time in whatever relationship you may find yourself, especially if the man or guy you're in a relationship with is not performing up to standard.
Like we always say, more than 90% of ladies out there, already know if a relationship they're currently in will lead to a successful union (marriage) or not. They know this fact from the very beginning of the relationship. #Facts.
But here comes the insecurity aspect, the fear of losing what they have, when they aren't even sure another (man that meet their standards) will come and so it makes them stay in the current relationship anyway.
To cut the whole story short; you can't lose what has already been loss.
This guy or man isn't just ready to get married yet and here he is giving you filthy excuses and wasting your time.
The truth is, it may not have necessarily been your fault (that is, it could be and it could probably not have been), or may be the guy hasn't just pictured you in his future, or he hasn't pictured himself with you, or he hasn't pictured a life with you involved. It's that simple.
2. The ladies list; most ladies if not all while growing up already have a picture of the man they want to spend the rest of their life with. You see list like;
- 8ft tall,
- Handsome and broad chested,
- Dark in complexion with dark eye brows,
- Pinkish lips and all of such.
So most times, they're waiting for that prince charming that will sweep them off their feet. It shouldn't surprise you when you see a young lady, who is still probably a teen already having a picture of how her marriage and wedding party will be.
How the colours is going to look like, how the hall for the event will look like and all of such, all planned out in her head.
Let me share a gist (discussion) I had with a female friend of mine, with you;
"So we were just discussing, like a casual discussion and along the line we were talking about marriage, and she told me that, she already had the names of her three kids, she was going to give birth to". I was really shocked and amazed.
For most guys, this is one of the least on our minds. We are mostly occupied on how to make this money (#hustling) the Nigerian slang for working to earn a living.
But please ladies on the issue of the list, no man is perfect out there. We are all here by his grace (Our Heavenly Father's Grace). So we aren't perfect and neither are you (ladies).
Bible reference; Job 15:14-16 (MSB Translation).
Verse 14; "Do you think it's possible for any mere mortal to be sinless in God's sight, for anyone born of a human mother to get it all together?
Verse 15; Why, God can't even trust his Holy Angel's. He sees the flaws in the very Heavens themselves.
Verse 16; So how much less we humans, smelly and fool, who lap up evil like water?
Now we haven't said you shouldn't marry the best, of course not. That's not what we are buttressing here, you actually deserve the best as long you also make sure you're also the best for you two to be compatible, because the right man for you will also need the right woman for himself. Bible reference: 2 Corinthians 6:14.
3. The idea of, there is only one husband for me; we have talked about this issue in one of our earliest post. Here is the link below;
It is a myopic idea to think or feel God your Heavenly Father has only one specific husband for you.
It's like you're limiting the goodness of God in your life, it's like you're insulting God's personality.
Out of all the millions of good and God fearing and talented gentlemen on this earth, you feel God only created one person specific for you? Haba, how come?
God isn't like that. It's like when one door closes another opens up.
It's up to you to make your choice according to what you know will work best for you with the guidance of the Holy Spirit, because you can't do it all by yourself. God Almighty has given you a free will.
Here is a link on our popular post "God directs but you make the decision". . . . . .
Here is a tip for you; if everyone had a one specific husband or wife, then how come those who broke up from their previous relationships were still able to make it right with a better relationship that led to marriage?
You are not alone (1 Peter 5:9). So please be guided and thanks for reading through. God bless you.
Happy New Month Once Again To You All.
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