Is it right for ladies to propose?

 Happy New Month, welcome to the month of June. 

     Today's topic is an indeed a technical question, but requires a straightforward answer.

SHOULD THE LADIES PROPOSE?

Let's briefly take a look at this scripture; Genesis 2:23 "And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man" (KJV).

      Adam was the first to recognize who Eve was, a woman and not the other way round, (that is Eve identifying Adam as man).

      It is interesting to know that ladies of this generation propose to guys, like "Will you marry me?" Coming from the Lady. We aren't saying it is bad, no not at all. All we are here to do is to give a better understanding on this topic, and then you are free to decide on which course you want to journey. It's that simple.

        Back to our Bible text above, before verse 23, verse 20 says ". . . . . . . But for Adam there was not found an help meet for him" (KJV).

         Now from the beginning of creation man was always meant to be the head of his family. Adam recognized Woman as the bone of his bone. . . . . . . , this is similar to proposal in today's society. 

Not until a man sees what he desires and values in a woman, a marriage proposal cannot occur depending on his (the man's) values and criteria's. 

     Let's also see what Ephesians 5 says about man being the head of the family. Ephesians 5:22-23 "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church: and he is the Savior of the body" (KJV).

     The Husband is the head, it has been stated clearly from the Old Testament and also the New Testament. In Genesis 3:16 when man fell, let's read through ". . . . . . And thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee" (KJV).

      Therefore you proposing to a man means you've taken that responsibility of the man, by being in charge of the family, of his family. You might think you're doing him a favor but believe us you're not.

Let the man grow to that stage where he knows what he wants and goes for it and let him learn the responsibility of keeping what he has earned.

A tip: whatever a man struggles to get, he cherishes, he places a high value over such a thing or person.

Note:

     There was a big difference between the responsibility of Isaac towards Rebekah and that of Jacob towards Rachel.

Rebekah was given to Isaac by his Father's (Abraham's) servant. He didn't have to struggle for it. And when the time came for him to defend his wife Rebekah, Isaac was willing to let her go easily for the sake of his life. Isaac hadn't learnt responsibility in the aspect of picking a suitable wife for himself, and that is why his Father had to do it for him. Bible reference: Genesis 26:7 "And the men of the place asked about his wife. And he said, "She is my sister", for he was afraid to say, "She is my wife", because he thought, "lest the men of the place kill me for Rebekah, because she is beautiful to behold" (NKJV).

        But this was unlike Jacob, who happened to work for 14 years for the hand of Rachel in marriage. And when problem eventually came, he was willing to die for his family, he was willing to sacrifice his life for his family, because he had worked hard for them (responsibility). Bible reference: Genesis 32:7-8 ". . . . . .  He divided his household, along with the flocks and herds and camels, into two camps. He thought, "If Esau attacks one group, perhaps the other can escape" (New Living Translation).

    Here is a link to one of our blog post "Are you up to the task?"

https://itzlovemeleaveme.blogspot.com/2020/08/are-you-up-to-task.html

Like we earlier stated, please act wisely.