Watch The Red Flags!

 Recently had a conversation with a married woman on a relationship platform, though we aren't going to disclose her name for certain reasons best known.

  The woman vividly stated that she is married for 9 years, or she has been in marriage for 9 years now, but for certain reasons she isn't finding the marriage fulfilling, she isn't enjoying the marriage.

   She stated clearly that her husband abuses her, uses foul words on her, uses insulting words on her and we were really shocked, like what! Nine years of pain and agony.

    Yes, be wise now to those who are still single. She also mentioned that there was a difference in their personality when they first met, (that is while they were still dating), but they chose to overlook the whole differences scenario. Now it has become a huge problem, because the husband and herself isn't finding the marriage interesting anymore, because the man isn't willing to change. She has tried to talk sense into him but to no avail. 

    The important lesson we'd love to share on this post is; please always watch out for the red flags. Don't overlook them in your relationship and say we can manage it, we can cope and leave it unresolved and get married. You can't cope no shit, you can't cope anything.

Now what are the red flags to watch out for?

They're the signs, attributes, and values that tells if a relationship will make it to marriage or not. They are very glaring but most times we just choose to ignore and say "we are in love, it doesn't matter". Please it does and it is very important you deal with it while in the relationship before the marriage. And if he/she is not willing to change, break free from the relationship. 

     "The guy always slaps you after every little arguement, and you say it was a slip of the hand", "He insults you when he gets angry and you say, "I made him mad, I made him angry", "He cheats on you and you say it's because you told him no sex till marriage" and same thing goes for the guys; "You see she's always running after guys with money, cash" and you still go ahead and marry her, "You see she's always flirting" and you say she's being sexy and romantic". Don't try pleasing anyone or allow anyone cajole you into a marriage you will forever in your life regret.

      

   Please and please be careful to look out for the red flags. Now are we saying everybody is perfect, absolutely not our statement. But there are things not to take for granted. The red flags are always there, only if and only if you can open your eyes to see. 

Hosea 4:6 says "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge . . . . . ." (NKJV).