Planning Dates!

 Why do we plan dates? What is the essence of dating in the first place? Can't we just skip the date planning part?

First of all, dating is that level you get to in a relationship where you get to know each other better at a more intimate level (though not sexually related, like having sex). Sex is only applicable in marriage.

Planning Dates;

It is almost like a normal outing you have with your colleagues, your male friends, your female friends or your co-workers. The slight difference is, this is your date (the person you hope to one day spend the rest of your life with).

     When planning dates most times, it is common to feel uneasy. You're all tensed up and anxious probably not because you don't know this person or you're scared of this person. It is more of a fact that you don't want things to go wrong, you want it to be a day to be remembered especially if it's the first date, and so you don't want to blow it up and so planning dates becomes a bit difficult, and for the majority it's stressful and demanding. 

Planning dates isn't as complicated as it sounds though there is always an ounce of anxiety. 

The main details to note when planning a date is;

• Be confident; be more relaxed in every possible way you can. If you're not relaxed it tells on your date and this isn't going to make your date feel relaxed either.
• Worry less and be more of yourself, though you should still take the time to put in the little effort and touches.
• Be comfortable at whatever you're doing, because if you aren't then your partner won't be either.
• Choose places you're both comfortable with. It may be a restaurant she really loves or a nice place you're both free to have a nice time together.

For example if she's an introvert, then public places with so much activities may not be a nice place to have a date. 

If she's a lady who values quality time or her primary love language is quality time, then it would be best you schedule activities and events where you both can fully participate together without distractions. These little things should be put into deep consideration.

• Lastly, don't choke yourself with the fear of planning a date. Remember it's a date with somebody you probably know, so impressing her beyond your capacity to the extent of borrowing isn't going to make her love you more, in fact it's going to make her so very uncomfortable that the whole idea of taking her on a date would be ruined.

The main summary is, know your partner (date) well enough to know what works for them and what doesn't. Then you'll have a smoother date planning.