There is nothing as irritating and annoying as "going somewhere without knowing the where" And worst of it all is following the footsteps of someone who claims he knows the somewhere but actually doesn't.
Some relationships are like this. There is no actual compass for easy direction. It is not a rare thing, in fact it is a very common thing amongst us.
5 years into a relationship, 6 years into a relationship there is no actual direction to where the relationship is leading to.
In most cases, 6 years into the relationship the lady discovers that the man wasn't interested in getting married, he wasn't even ready to get married soon after six years of being in a relationship. Whoa! What a futility.
You begin a relationship and you don't bother to know what you've signed in for, and in the long run you hear them say "let's see how things goes" in a 7 years relationship, you're still trying to check if the relationship will work, this is surprising.
You don't enter a relationship just to hope and see how things goes, you should be definite about what you want and it is very mandatory you know where you're heading to.
Ladies, there is no crime in knowing where your relationship is leading. In fact you should ask the guy or man who wants to date you questions like this;
- For how long are we dating?
- When are we getting married?
You may seem desperate on your path, but you're not. You're only trying to prevent yourself from time wasters. Now we didn't say it's an issue you use coercion, not at all. If a guy wants to date you, it is important you know why he wants to date you? Why did he choose you? Does his life have focus? Does his life have direction?
Direction in the aspect of blueprints as to what his life would look like in the nearest future and ensure he's also working hard to pursue his goals and not just mere words. He may not be that person right now, but as long as you can see the direction and pattern of his life, you can tell if he will arrive there.
With this set, Genesis 2:18 ". . . . . Help meet for him" is fulfilled.
There are no rooms for time wasters. Here is a recent post on stop wasting time, the link is below.
In conclusion, the essence of this post is to enlighten you on questions you should ask before deciding to date that fellow. And if you're in such relationship with no direction, then it is time you rethink that relationship, it is time you redirect your focus.
Yes, it will surely hurt discovering after so many years of being in a relationship it was all chasing the wind.
But in the long run, the man who genuinely wants you, who genuinely wants to be committed to you won't feel threatened or annoyed when you are inquisitive to know where the relationship is heading to.
To avoid this costly mistakes check out this amazing book by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo "7 Questions Wise Women Ask" at
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