Why Not Remain Single?

 Don't  be surprise when you hear some persons say; why should I be in a relationship? Why is it a big deal? What's so exciting about being in a relationship?

First of all, no one is forcing you to be in a relationship and second of all it's not a big deal. Apostle Paul on his teaching on marriage in 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 clearly stated "if you can't stay then marry, than to burn with lust".

        Most times people you find saying these things are usually people who have been into relationships that didn't really work out well and some of the time they're not. But nonetheless, we'll classify these persons into three categories;

• First, these set of persons don't see the need to be in any form of relationship. They just don't see the reason.
• Second, these set of persons are probably the ones who have been hurt in their previous relationships. So there is this fear of not wanting to go through that emotional trauma all over again. So most often they prefer to be on the safe side by not extending themselves emotionally again.
• Third, which are the final set of persons, it's most likely the negative things they've seen, and heard about relationships and people involved in it. And so based on these basis, they conclude that if it's like this, then what's the need of starting a relationship after all?

Now there are persons whose purpose in life won't permit them to marry, they're exempted from the categories above.

To get more on these set of persons the link is kindly below.........

https://itzlovemeleaveme.blogspot.com/2021/01/not-everyone-is-destined-to-marry.html

Let's tackle the first set of persons;

There is nothing you can do on your end to make them see relationships from another perspective. Its a decision they've made and most likely they are the only ones left to decide whether to let go of such decisions or not.

The second set of persons;

When you chose to love a person, when you've decided to love a person then you've equally chosen to open up yourself to vulnerability. There are going to be heartbreaks and heartaches and all of such. And sometimes the relationship leads to marriage and some other time it doesn't. There is no harm in restarting again. It's something we all pass through in life, though it might not all be relationship based, but still you're not alone (1 Peter 5:9) so cheer up and stand on your feet and keep on the fight.

"Nothing worth having comes easy"_ Theodore Roosevelt

But if you're not ready to go through the hardship and work, it is not compulsory you must, after all you have your freewill. But just so you know, genuine love though difficult to find is one of the best thing that can happen to a man, the feeling and satisfaction is beyond materialistic fulfillment.