I'm I The Wrong Partner In My Relationship?

 Relationships are wonderful and finding yourself in a fulfilling and successful relationship is;

1. God's gift,
2. Your level of self preparation.

But even a God given relationship can still crumble with ease with the wrong mindset, wrong ideology and wrong approach. 

    Let's briefly start with this; what's your self-esteem like in your relationship, in relation to the above topic? Are you hiding behind your partner? Are you hiding in your partner's shadow?

With questions like this, one can easily discern to what the answer would be like.

1. Low self-esteem, 
2. It's TRUE, you're the wrong partner.

Please stay focus as we unveil these two categories. 

     Low self-esteem; this has nothing to do with your partner, but more with you as the other partner. There is this mindset that plays in your mind; "I'm not enough", "I'm not sufficient", "I'm messed up". With this mindset in your head, you mess up your relationship even when it was okay.

     Entering a relationship with a low self-esteem is going to ruin every relationship and any relationship you find yourself, especially if you don't handle it properly.

    Also, failed relationships from the past can be a contributing factor to low self-esteem, especially if it has been series of relationships. There is this gradual withdrawal from your partner overtime. 

Now if you can identify those areas that makes you feel less important, makes you feel redundant, then it is appropriate you work on them, improve yourself in such areas. If it requires getting expertise, get it, if it requires seeing a certified Doctor, see one. But even after doing this there are still problems, then most likely it is your mindset and nothing more.

Hint: Nobody comes into any relationship perfect. No, in fact we all come with our different baggage and hope to become better as we grow stronger together everyday. This is one major feature of a successful relationship leading to marriage. We work together to bring the best out of ourselves. 

      The second category, you're the wrong person. Check yourself closely, is there something all your partners in your past relationships kept complaining about? Was this complain ever like this in the past? Or has it always been this way?

       Well if you feel there is something that pertains to you, it's best you settle your inner self first, before projecting outwards.

Satisfaction in relationships comes first from the inside. Its what's on the inside that is expressed on the outside.