IT'S THAT CLOSE (Wetin u dey find for sokoto, dey ur shokoto)!

"The more you know, the more you realise you don't know _ Aristotle.

Wondered what this great human being might have learnt when he said this.

For the non-Nigerians, the above topic ("wetin u dey find for Sokoto, dey ur Shokoto) means "what you search for at the farthest end is indeed closer to you than you could imagine".

Most times, a single lady or a single guy looking forward to dating has already zeroed in on what he/she wants as regards a partner. We're talking about:

• The spec (for the guys)
• The complexion (mostly for the ladies)
• The beauty (for virtually all guys). I mean nobody wants to marry or date an ugly lady. I won't too. But they say "beauty is the eyes of the beholder".
• The curves and hips (for most guys)
• The abs (for most ladies, usually six-packs)
• The beards (for most ladies).
• The height...

Something that will dazzle us of our feet. That arousal and dangling feeling when we meet this particular person.

     With this very picture in mind, we tend to look beyond our immediate circle, we go deeper, because we believe the deeper we search the better the result. How better is the result? Love neither affection is that far from every one of us as we presume them to be.

We enjoy our fantasies a lot. I mean who wouldn't? I do. But hey, we're missing a whole big picture when we become carried and strayed away by our fantasies. And so we search for castles where there are none.

The castle (curvy, beautiful, glamouring, tall, chocolate lady) didn't become a castle overnight. It was nurtured even when it didn't look like it was ever going to be a castle. But the problem is, "we all want that castle, but we lack the patience to build and nurture one).

        The love you seek from afar most times is always right in front of you. We aren't seeing them because they aren't the fantasies we so badly desire. 

"Reality with the right person can be a lot better than fantasies_ Oghosasere Osatohanmwen 

Bottom line: Nurture and build your lady into that beautiful and elegant curvy woman you so desire instead of lusting after another. And if yours came with all the curves and backside and others you desire then it's okay.

For the singles searching for someone to meet your standard, look a little bit inward (around you). Most likely it might be that guy you have "friend-zoned", that lady "you've written off".

Just so you know, it is not mandatory you must always date someone around your hemisphere. But the likelihood is usually someone within our circle (which is usually called our friends) and not some random dazzling chested guy sweeping you off your feet every time with his presence.