Why ladies make bad decisions on who to date?

 Many a time we often hear people say, "despite her good character, she ended up with a bad husband, bad partner, a cruel partner". But Why?

Just so you know, "the fact you have a good character is not enough reason to guarantee a successful relationship or even Marriage. There are people who are good, but still date the wrong person. 

A lot of reasons contributes to this factor, but for today we'll be going through the most likely 7 of the reasons.

1. Fantasies; most ladies before ever having the thought of dating, already pictures the likeness of what her partner would look like. It isn't bad to fantsize, but when it goes beyond reality it becomes absurd. And come to think of it, if such guy you fantasize about in your mind should exist, what makes you so sure he'll want to date you? Are you going to be the kind of lady he wants to date? Are you also going to be his spec?

Having a spec as a lady isn't the issue. But what if your spec doesn't find you attractive enough to be his spec? Most often the guy likely to make you happy might not be your spec. 

2. The push; especially when all my females friends are getting engaged, getting married. There is this push to hasten things up than usual.

"You don't belong by making a wrong decision" _ Oghosasere Osatohanmwen.

Take your time to examine that guy, though it's normal to feel pressured we're humans. But let this be your guide!

"Would you rather prefer getting married and then wishing to be single again or take your time now and make it right? It's up to you.

3. The ideology; the "All men na men" gang, "All guys are the same" "the man-testers" according to Pastor K, the "What is good for the goose is good for the gander" ladies. 

These set of ladies generalize the experience they've probably had with some guy and just tag all other guys along.

But sorry to burst your bubble "Not all men are men". It's really best if you get that fact in.

4. Sense of security; believing a rough and a bad guy is manly enough to protect me. That's interesting right? "He can protect me" why? Because he's rugged, because he's tough, he doesn't take shit from nobody, nothing can shake him. 

Yeah it's true, ladies want a sense of security but dating a rugged guy doesn't guarantee that security either.

"He's primarily interested in punching back at what disturbs him, and not what disturbs "you" his woman". Let it sink.

He mustn't be rugged or be a bad boy for him to protect you. 

"There are good gentle guys that you dare not touch their woman"_ Oghosasere Osatohanmwen 

5. The mindset; some ladies do feel they can change a man despite seeing the devastating bad side of him. They're much aware of his bad nature, but they feel they can work it out with him. #The man changers.......

Here is the question, what happens if he doesn't change? What if the changer (you) becomes the changee (the guy you wanted to change has ended up changing you)? Think twice before you leap.

The Bible says in Proverbs 11:14 "In the multitude of counsel, there is safety".

6. Lack of Confidence; the belief of not deserving much. These set of ladies believe they don't deserve much owing to the fact of being damaged emotionally and mentally and so no good guy will want them. So basically they settle for less.

Yeah you might be damaged owing to the past life,  but not beyond repair. We are humans and we actually get broken at certain point in life. But that's where the Master Repairer comes in "JESUS CHRIST".

7. An error in Judgement; this is quite similar with 1 above. Don't let your emotions get the better of you when choosing a partner. And don't criticise that guy who walked up to you to profess his affections for you because of his current status 

"He might not be what he is to become now, but that doesn't mean he won't become it_ Oghosasere Osatohanmwen 

Here is the link on our post on Emotions!

https://itzlovemeleaveme.blogspot.com/2021/08/chemistry-at-first-sight.html

This is just the few above. But if you do find your categorie(s) above, please have a rethink and see relationships from a better perspective.

Believe it when we say this;

"Reality can be far much better than fantasies with the right person". 

God bless you.......