Being Single

 Being single is just like every other day to day decision we make in our everyday life. It's a choice. 

Being single as it may be isn't a crime, and neither is it terrific. There are reasons for being single, and there are reasons to remain single. Being single and not to "remain single" is our ball of contention here. As we earlier stated, it's a decision, but we'll address the motives behind such a decision, whether it's from a wrong or right mindset. The mindsets we usually have when we make such decisions.

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 First of all, let's ask these questions; Why are you considering being single? Why do you want to be single? Were you in a relationship that didn't work out before and hence the decision to remain single? Are you scared of relationships because of what you hear and witness in other failed relationships? Or do you feel you aren't prepared yet to be in a relationship right now?

Whether we perceive it or not, it's human psychology, but we're not here to bore you with all that, though they are right to an extent. Nonetheless, every decision we make is based on what we perceive, feel, think and relate with.

There are tons of reasons people chose to be single, and it becomes a top priority when those reasons are groundless. when they lack proper thinking and careful judgments. 

You can choose to be single, why because the thought of commitment scares you! It's a decision, but is it the right mindset?

But the next question you should ask before answering should be, why does commitment scares this person? It's not for you alone to criticise this person. 

First, is it because this person is scared of breaking his/her commitment? (The thought of, what if I end up breaking my promise? Or the person isn't just ready for anything relationship and well using the excuse of non-commitment becomes handy as a tool?

Secondly, it could be the current level of immaturity, which is closely related to the first instance above. It's true when statistics hold that our decisions at the present are most likely to change a few years from now, that's because we grow every day, and our decisions are likely to change as we evolve, as also certain commitments and friends we made in the past.

According to Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo "You don't make a permanent decision based on a temporary feeling".

Considering the first and second instances above, the first instance is more or less sitting on the fence. But the second is based on the right mindset.

As we earlier stated, being single has no crime, and neither is it something to be scared of. Your reason for being single will determine if it's a good course or not.