Falling for the bad guy! Falling for the bitches!

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Most of the time, separating our feelings from our logical reason is vital, and vice versa. The fact I feel that way doesn't mean I always have to act that way. The feelings can be real.

For example, there was a friend of mine who always claimed he knew everything and wouldn't accept his mistakes even when he was wrong. Now, we got into an argument, and I almost hailed abusive words at him. I did ponder about this though.

The feeling (of hurt), was there but acting in tune with my feelings was the wrong thing to do.

Same with dating. We tend to date the wrong person when we cannot fully articulate our feelings from our reasoning, (#Catching cruise mentality) what we want from what we need, our now from later.

While growing up, I usually had this flair for fair ladies. It just had to be a fair lady. Now, then if you had met me as a lady and you were not fair in complexion there was no business between you and I though you might be black or chocolate beauty. And then I sat one day to articulate where it all started from, and I discovered it was just a mindset. A desire mindset and not a necessity mindset. Now, It is good to have the best desire of choice, but ask yourself this, at the cost of what? 

Of course, recently my fair complexion syndrome has changed to an extent, though, don't be darker than I am.

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So, yeah it's a question of differentiating "want" from "need".